A Family Of Her Own-Making; An Exotic Dancer's Story

"As long as you are both legal adults and there is consent and you are safe, go for it!"

Alex was twenty one years old, working a dead-end job as a care-giver, when she discovered the world of exotic dancing.  Always having been open with her body and sexuality, she heard from a friend about an amateur dance contest at the local strip club and quickly she signed herself up. In that contest, she tied for first place and was offered a job at the club on the spot.  Looking back, she recalls how she shook like a leaf that first week, finding the real nature of being naked and dancing before an audience to be more than just exposing physically but also emotionally. 

In her younger life, she struggled, like many girls, with debilitating low self esteem and self worth.  But as she continued with this line of work, she increasingly found more respect for herself and has seen her self-confidence and love of self, of her body, sky-rocket. 

A big part of this empowerment has come from those she works with and alongside.  The girls, albeit at times dysfunctional, are her family and she knows wholeheartedly have her back no matter what as she, in turn, has theirs.  They are there for each other both in performance, at work, and in other areas of life.  The rest of the staff, bouncers, managers, and the like, are also there for the dancers ensuring they feel safe, respected, and heard.

It is also empowering, Alex admits, to be admired and looked at by the male viewing audience while dancing, knowing that they will pay to have that pleasure.  In addition, this has helped Alex to be in tune with her body's needs, from regular exercise, eating healthy, and maintaining adequate self care in order to ensure her performance remains high quality.

She has experienced some backlash and misunderstanding from the outside world when it comes to her profession.  A former boyfriend's mother was concerned that Alex would flirt with and steal her husband, because of her line of work.  How preposterous to think, seeing as how Alex was dating her son at the time and not there to flirt!

Although she has experienced some negativity at her work from audience members, overall she feels very safe and at home.  She sees her club as her happy place, her second home. She goes on to say, that the main reason she loves her club so much is that the power and control rests with her, with the dancer.  Its about being safe and having consent, if there is none on both sides, then its a no go.

In this way, Alex has learned not just to be body positive, but to be sex positive as well.  She embraces all sorts of different kinks as she expresses the club motto:

"As long as you are both legal adults and there is consent and you are safe, go for it!"